In the life of every human being, all problems boil down to two things:
Validation and Happiness
Think about a big problem in your life. Some examples could be:
Too little money, no job, too few friends, jealousy, mobbing, too little food, health problems, a bad relationship and so on.
These common problems can be divided into validation problems and happiness problems. A lack of money, no job, health or food are all happiness problems. These are things that you want, because you believe they will satisfy your everyday needs like hunger, thirst, comfort, sleep, health and fun.
On the other hand, there are problems like a lack of friends, jealousy, mobbing and bad relationships. You long to resolve these things because you believe this will make you feel validated.
If someone has lots of friends, a good relationship with an attractive partner and is liked by his co-workers he is validated, i.e. he knows other people think he is a "good person" or a "successful person".
Of course, sometimes problems can fall into both categories. A job can make you happy by earning you money and it can also validate you. Family and friends respect you more if you have a job than if you don't.
The bad news is that seeking validation and happiness ultimately restricts your freedom.
The good news is both of these problems can be solved with relatively simple, but not at all easy methods.
These methods are giving to others and accepting yourself. Giving takes care of happiness and accepting yourself takes care of validation.
I will write more in depth posts about these two methods soon.
Till then,
Be free
Yann
